Still no friends after moving a year on

[Evbev]

Am I being unrealistic? moved from home a year ago to the uk. No friends and I have joined a class, a singing group, voluntary work. I just don't seem to be meeting any friends. I am not working and feel very isolated. Maybe I'm expecting too much

Have you tried www.meetup.com? There's bound to be something happening in your area. I went to dinner last Friday with a fun group of 20 people and going out to dinner with one of the group tomorrow evening.

You're not expecting too much! Are you meeting people you like a bit, just not as great friends, or is it that there is nobody at all?

Where abouts are you in the Uk? If its London then its not too much of a surprise really. I lived in London for nearly five years and didn't make one friend. Lots of acquaintances and colleagues but no friends sadly.

There are online social meet ups in most cities and larger towns and they usually have a wide variety of activites and social outings to suit most tastes. Maybe something like that would help?

I moved 10 years ago.
I consider myself a friendly, sociable person, but found it incredibly hard starting from scratch. It took me years to 'find my village', but I got there.
As a generalisation, it's easier to make friends with other 'blow-ins' (simply because they're also finding their village) so think about where you might find them and look there don't rule out the locals either of course.
Be bold, invite people over for coffee/afternoon tea etc, then progress on to nights out and dinners etc. There was this wonderful French woman at my DC's Montessori (a fellow mother) who brought us all together, organising picnics, coffee mornings, play dates, and then dinner parties and fantastic nights out dancing :) she was my saviour :) If I ever move to a new place again, I will try to be a her.

Mrscaine, I'm curious - how do you explain that about London? I came across this too, and I don't get it - people seem to like you, be pleased to see you genuinely/you like them/fun and chats - but whenever you try to move into 'friends' mode instead of superficial socialising, i.e. invite them somewhere not in a group, there's always this evasiveness. Glad to know it's not just me.

Nespressofan,I will try that thanks the meetup
Gotagoldtoof I like the people I meet which is through a class or choir or volunteering, there doesn't seem to be anyone in my shoes, ie, kids at school etc in all these areas.
Mrscaindingle, I am in a very small town, funny was wishing it was London I was living in!
AlfAlf good point about other blow ins - it just takes one person like the French women you mention.