Posted a while back in AIBU about friend with DC 6 years old who after much faffing about turned down invite to my DC's birthday party. Mother said yes twice even offering to help at party then saying no, citing her DC's stress making her feel stressed.
The 2 children are not at same school so opps for meeting are getting fewer but we live fairly close to each other (5 mins drive).
Now my DC had party all fine. Mother texted me on the day to wish her happy birthday. All fine. In previous years they made quite a fuss, ie present and card. A month later it's her DC's birthday and my DC didn't get invite, which is fine. As we are (or were) friends I thought a card would be nice and my DC was keen to get a small gift which we sent through post. Got a text from friend saying thanks etc. and saying they had a gift for DC but that we didn't get the opp to see each other, the way it was worded made it sound like we hadn't made the effort.
I am friends with the mother and we used to meet with the children during hols or at weekends, sometimes with o/h sometimes just us. They came to ours about 5 months ago and everyone had a great time or so we thought but since the birthday party episode there's been some weird communications from my friend. She sent me an email telling me I hadn't responded to a text of hers. I never got that text and looking at it I feel that she was trying to suggest I was the one not communicating. In that same email she suggested I organise a trip to a show because I am so good at organising them and somehow I thought she was pushing her luck a bit as she basically has turned down quite a few things since we last met so I thought maybe she could do sth if she really wanted to see us.
Thinking about the friendship I now feel like I've done a lot of the legwork . Before the birthday party thing she told me she was super busy at work and didn't have childcare to finish a project. I offered to help with that and she said she was ok after all. And the last few times we met I realised it was often at my instigations, ie I got free tickets to a kids show and invited her DC to it, invited them over to ours ...
So I've decided to take the back seat and see if she organises sth or contacts us.
Sounds rather pathetic of me but I find her behaviour quite strange and even my o/h who was there last time we all met finds it weird as we remarked how the DC were getting on so well, my friend's DC didn't want to leave. All my other friendships are pretty straightforward. Not sure what I'm expecting here, but just needed to vent and have another perspective on things!