So after finally having the courage to end my emotionally abusive marriage, I'm now at my next dilemma. I felt for years a lot of issues were down to depression rooted in very low self esteem and he often displays OCD. I believed very strongly in trying to make my marriage work and in my vows of in sickness and in health. He had one episode a few years ado where we went to the docs and he tried antidepressants but they didn't work and that was the end of that. Over the years I tried so hard to talk to him and he kept saying it's got fuck all to do with depression, leave me alone. After years of being tarted badly I gave up.
The sad thing is deep down I know he is a good person and that's why I gave him so many chances. Now we've finished, he has booked counselling, admitted to everything, admitted to feeling very depressed, and treated the children far better. He is only just after two and a half weeks getting his crying under control. He doesn't want sympathy and is freely telling all the family it is all his fault. He still keeps talking about winning me back but I have stressed he has to get better for him and the kids, I can't promise him anything.
In trying to help him see, I took my wedding rings off. I have been made to feel awful by our families and they have implied that I am clearly doing this to let the world know I am available. I'm so confused and upset and feeling ridiculously niaeve. I was trying to make a point to him - and to me really. I have got a young family and a full on stressful full time job. The thought of going on the pull and getting myself a boyfriend is really not high on my agenda. I just wanted peace and calm in my house and in my life. Should I put them back on to prove I'm not on the pull?! Maybe it was short sighted and I'll thought out, it's only been two weeks. Argh!!
Hope this makes sense, difficult typing on the phone!! Thanks for any advice.