Hi guys
I got through the problems with DP and we generally are a lot happier, nothing untoward has happened since and we get along great.
However! Me and my ex dated for around eight months until October 2011. We broke up when one morning he decided he didn't love me and we stopped speaking at his request. I was absolutely heartbroken, but he kept texting after a few weeks, despite being with someone new. Then going NC for months and coming and going. This went on until May 2013 when he asked my advice on moving down south which I said was an excellent opportunity (secretly pleased he wanted my opinion thinking it may be a sign we'd be together again). We both tried going NC and it never worked so we became friends. He got a girlfriend who he'd actually moved down south to be with, forgetting to tell me this! I only found out when she called me from his phone having a right go at me.
After this I vowed never to speak to him again but yet again he text and called and we spoke until Feb of this year. When I moved in with DP.
Since then I haven't heard a word from him, I sent a drunk text twice saying I missed our friendship. Which is true, I don't think of him in a sexual way anymore just someone who I got along with when there was no lying.
Now though, I find myself thinking about him all the time, just in a what he's up to way. I don't want to wreck mine or his relationship I just want my friend back! DP knows all about the story and doesn't particularly like it but forgets it because I never speak of it now. I find myself listening to songs we used to and just wanting to talk. I haven't text him since April when I didn't get a reply.
I just don't know how to stop thinking about him! I want to be friends, he doesn't and it hurts like hell. I also used to think I didn't get closure on the relationship because he kept saying he lied all along about loving me, but in Feb admitted he did and never wants me to forget him.
Sorry this is so long! A lot of feelings I needed to get out!