I haven't been on MN for a few years and am pleasantly surprised to find it is still the same place.
However, MN helped me when I was really down and I suppose I just wanted to show that you can get out of a bad relationship and be happy.
It was when I first started reading relationship threads on here that I actually realised that my marriage was awful - sounds daft but you get used to being treated like shit over the years and accept it as normal - you really do. Gradually I realised I could do something about it.
I have posted as both Kaotickitty and CallyJade, about three to four years ago now, and the collective replies helped me see sense, strengthen my resolve to get out and not be a doormat any longer.
My DCs are all grown up now and we have, since the break up, had candid conversations and they have all three stated that they wished I had left their Dad earlier.
He is still an alcoholic - doesn't bother to contact them and they pity him - as one DC said "he's too pathetic to hate"!
I am still in the house, with the DCs, although one has now moved out to live with her bf, and I have a lodger which helps make ends meet - I bought XH out of his share of the house and although it's not been easy (my divorce came through the same week as I was made redundant!) it's been a hell of a lot easier than living with XH was!!
I suppose I just wanted to finish my story off... let others know that there can be a happy ending if they are in a similar situation... and that the outcome can not just be good but bloody fantastic!
And lastly, thank you to each and everyone of you who posted.