I'm ready but will anyone even be interested?

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I have been divorced for three years and I now feel ready to throw myself back out into the world of dating.

I married very young (18).and we split up when I was 22. I am 26 now and have spent a good amount of time (3 good years) finding out who I am..basically recovering my identity.

I have two gorgeous DCs, 6 and 3 and I'm afraid that no man would be interested in dating someone with two kids who are still very young.

Just looking for reassurance, tips, anything!

You've heard of step-parents? They all dating someone with kids.

Some of them have their own, some don't.

It's sad that you are writing yourself off at 26! Get out there but just keep an eye out for twats, which goes at any age.

Of course someone will be interested. Someone in similar circumstances as you perhaps.

I read what I posted and cringed slightly, but it is mostly because I'm so nervous to get back out there.

I'm 36, 2 dc (4 and 2) and feel the same as you. You've got one thing to your advantage- your age! Get stuck into dating and enjoy it. Make sure your twunt radar is working properly! Good luck.

ahh good luck to you too mamma! Here's hoping

Have faith, there will be many men that will love to be in a relationship with you & your children.

Hi

Yes! My DC are 4 and 7 and I met DP when they were 2 and 5 . Quite a few people have said to me ( and DP has said the same) that people fall in love with the individual regardless of their circumstance ..you come as a package and the right man will welcome all that comes with you..and be prepared for what that involves . In my case that means not being able to see each other much in the week (down to distance between us because of our houses and jobs) and a nightmare of an ex . He also loves the relationship he has with my DC which he wouldn't have if I had no children.

I did think the same as you before I met him. It's just finding the right one as one man's idea of hell might be another's idea of heaven.

Good luck !

Some people will mind, some people will not mind. If the people will mind then move on much more quickly and do not also waste their time as well. Look for very genuine connection.

The dating life can be quite depersonalising too. So do move on quickly if something does not feel quite right and do not move back. If someone affects you a lot, then they are not right for you.

Watch this 'Single Trap' video (last one on this page) - www.andrewgmarshall.com/videos/ - ?

Another one here (2 DCs 2 and 5, divorced 18 months) but with the added 'challenge' of being 43, although that should mean any potential suitors are likely have their own children/other stuff/general baggage, so I can see where you're coming from, OP.

I haven't started dating yet, mostly because I can't work out how single parents manage it logistically. Having little ones means you're pretty knackered anyway, but I only get one night off a week and the lure of the sofa is strong and babysitters are £10ph so not insignificant ....I just wonder how relationships get off the ground with almost zero scope for spontaneity at the start.

Obviously they do, but I can't believe it's only people with family close who manage it.

I'm wondering how/why anyone with two dc same age as mine would swap sofa, pjs and chocolate for a man. Haha!