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Urgent help please

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Loveitorhateit · 02/06/2014 09:50

Have nc for this, please can anyone help with some advice for my daughter. She is living with her partner and small baby, he also has children from previous relationship who live with them. My daughter is unhappy and says the relationship is not good but she doesn't know how to get out or where to go

I have no room at my house and I believe her dad may have a spare room but not sure if his partner would allow her there. It's not a violent relationship in any way but they are arguing a lot.

Any thoughts on what she can do or any way she can try to get housing. They live in a housing association house and her name is not on the agreement

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bellarations · 02/06/2014 09:58

Hi . I'm not an expert but suspect she has no claims to the house if not on the agreement.
I am a step parent and it is very difficult at times to agree on how to blend the family together.
Can she get enough money to privately rent in the short immediate term then apply for hb, if not working, plus whatever financial help she may be entitled to.
If he is being abusive then women's aid can help, but she must want to change/leave by being strong and consistent. Thus avoiding him cohersing her to stay and the cycle begin again later.

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Loveitorhateit · 02/06/2014 10:11

I think,this is the major problem they are not gelling together as a family and she finds it tough with his children as she is still young herself. She been to me several times in tears. More and more she talks of leaving but doesn't know where to start.

Can she still claim housing benefit? I thought that had stopped
Her dad might lend her the deposit but she's still on mat leave and has hardly any money. I'm not sure if he is abusive she tells me he treats her like a child a lot of the time

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 02/06/2014 10:56

I would suggest that she contacts the local housing authority, explains the problem and see what they recommend. It may mean she has to go into a temporary hostel until something permanent can be organised but, if she's not on named on the rental agreement of the HA property, he could theoretically tell her to leave at the drop of a hat.

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