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Pregnancy paranoia, or forgotten friend?

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betenoire2012 · 02/06/2014 09:30

A few years ago I was lucky enough to get a great job overseas, with my OH and little girl taking the plunge and moving abroad.

Since then, two old friends, from different circles, who had excitedly shared the news of their first pregnancies with me while I still lived in the UK, happen to both be pregnant with their second child. My bugbear is that neither of them told me of their second pregnancies, which I heard on the grapevine through other friends.

I'm now pregnant, but the cynic in me is telling me not to bother telling them my exciting news, since they couldn't be bothered telling me theirs!

Could it be that now I'm living abroad, absence makes the heart forget (the birthday cards and Christmas cards I send aren't always reciprocated)?

I just want to know whether I'm in my rights to be hacked off, or should I just move on and accept they're not as close friends as I thought? Don't get me wrong, I'm under no illusion that friends come in varying degrees of closeness, but these are people who were really excited to share their news with me first time round!

It could of course be my pregnancy hormones playing up!!

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mammadiggingdeep · 02/06/2014 09:45

I made less of a deal of announcing my second dd...not because I was any less thrilled but because dd1 was 13 months and life was hectic, I was constantly knackered and didn't have 5 minutes to myself!

CogitoErgoSometimes · 02/06/2014 09:47

I've never personally had a second baby but my observation is that, by the time #2 puts in an appearance, a lot of people are 'over it'. So they don't tend to make as big a song and dance about everything (thank God) the way they did with the PFB. Yes, being overseas does put you out of the loop but don't let that stop you sharing your news.

betenoire2012 · 02/06/2014 10:40

Cheers for the responses, I had a feeling I was being a tad melodramatic.

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