Returned from a few days away with friends this afternoon. My DP of 18 months had said DD and I could come over for dinner this evening, which we'd agreed to.
My mobile's on the blink (which I'd warned him about) so when we got home, I called his landline (it's the only phone number of his I can remember). No answer, so I sent him a message via FB to let him know we were home. Had an inkling he might still be out at a sporting event supporting his DS so didn't worry too much.
Couple of hours later, went on FB to send another message to him, and noticed (via the "Chat" part) that he'd been online in the past 5 minutes so waited for him to get in touch. An hour later, still no contact from him so I suggested to DD that we just head round to his.
Got there to find he wasn't in. By now it was only an hour 'til DD's bedtime and we still hadn't eaten, so decided to drive back home again to sort dinner for the two of us, seeing as I still hadn't heard from DP.
Drove past the local pub on the way home and - lo and behold - there he was, sitting at a table outside with his mates and a couple of pints in front of him. So we parked up and went over to where he was sitting. He didn't even get up to come over for a "welcome home" hug and kiss - just sat there and said hello. I said "I'm sorry but I've got to get DD home so she can eat before it gets too late". He said he'd been trying to ring my mobile, which I said was no good as it's not working at the moment. He said "Why didn't you ring me?", so I told him I'd tried to ring him at home as I don't know his mobile number off by heart, and had also tried to contact him via FB. He said nothing, then his mates started asking us if we'd had a nice time away, so the conversation moved on.
So I chatted to his mates for a few minutes while DP just sat there in silence, then said DD and I'd have to get home as bedtime was approaching. Still nothing from DP, so we said our goodbyes to the group and went back to the car. I heard one of his mates say to him "Why don't you go with them?" but didn't hear DP's response.
Drove home with DD really upset, wanting to know why DP was in the pub when we were supposed to be going round to him for dinner. Made up some excuse to calm her down but inwardly was thinking the exact same thing. And why, if he'd tried my mobile with no success, hadn't he tried my landline instead? (I know that number's also on his phone).
Hadn't seen him for five days and was really looking forward to seeing him this evening and, quite honestly, was hoping he'd be looking forward to seeing me too, but his actions spoke otherwise.
I'm pretty hurt and upset myself, but the fact he upset my DD too is making me think maybe I should cut my losses? It's not the first time that plans have gone awry because he's gone to the pub.
I love him and would do anything to help him (and have done in the past) but, following this evening's debacle, am beginning to think it's just one-way traffic.