Needing some hugs and support

[Izzy821]

I was on the dating thread explaining my situation but I am drinking now and feel so bad about myself and just wanted some hugs.

Am feeling really rejected and awful. Online dating nightmare. I can explain if anyone wants to listen.

Don;t know why this has hit me so hard but after xDP left me I feel so low in myself and the online dating experience was just so devastating.

Feeling like I am worthless...

Thank you. I know he didn't love this guy...but i just thought it was all happening and to hear him slag me off behind my back when I was telling everyone else how wonderful he was....

:(

I wasn't able to sleep all right really. I am not sure why this is hitting me so hard but I do feel like I'm breaking into bits

Sorry to hear you couldn't sleep :( have you got someone to talk to in real life, who could take you out for the day, spend some time with you? Or even just to phone for a chat, just to get it all out?

You're strong. You can get through this

I am better today now. Was just such a massive shock and so much disappointment that is dredged up past pain

Are you still going on date No 4 with him? If so, you are just investing more of precious time and attention on someone who doesn't respect you.

You are also in danger of doing the 'pick me' dance which is quite humiliating. That won't leave you feeling very good. Can you trust him after what you have found out? Will you always wonder if the next date is the last?

No, I won't. Already decided that.

I tried to me objective and calm about it and on the upside he said to this woman that he'd really liked me, that he'd not been messaging other people when he was with me and he was also honest in telling me when he did start messaging other people.

On the other hand, it's clear he is criticising me and I don't really want to go out with a person who doesn't see me as wonderful.

Just a bad experience. Lesson learned not to jump in too fast ever again.

So glad you're feeling better now - and I think you've definitely made the right choice. Like sadwidow said - you'd be investing time and attention on someone who doesn't respect you, and who certainly doesn't deserve you.

Head held high, onwards and upwards :)

Some people are just such arseholes and for whatever reason they seem to find me! I think the last time I had a man who didn't lie / cheat / abuse I was about 17.

Funnily enough, none of them are anything like each other. All they have in common in wanker-ness

Don't go on that date with him. These blokes , the issues are with them , not with you. At this stage in he should be all butterflies too , not messaging other girls about his concerns. Don't waste your time. Instead learn to love yourself. You need to not carry other peoples issues with you. The fact you respect yourself enough to stop the wedding and also to ditch this guy I think is wonderful.

You will meet someone one day that deserves you. It's taken me all my life and a good few frogs before I met someone really special. I never thought it would happen with me having four dc but it did and I am sure it will happen for you. For now though do things that make you feel good.

Thank you all