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Tell me all the ways this plan I have hatched of escaping abusive h can go wrong.

28 replies

freedom494 · 01/06/2014 23:44

Long story short, he is emotionally and physically violent. There is history with the police and social services but I have never followed through with any charges.

We own a house. Have two dc.

He won't leave. I have no where to go. He thinks I will just carry on living like this forever. Today he mentioned moving house as for the first time in years we are not in neg. Equity and he would make a small profit, which he wants yo use to buy a new house by the coast. He is crazy. But it got me thinking.

What if I trick him into selling the house, the profits of which I make sure go into my account (not sure how yet) and then use that money to put down 6 months rent on a new house in my name only.

Then pay a removal firm to move us while he is at work. Then phone him to tell him what I'very done and that he needs to find somewhere else to live. And then just don't contact him until he will have calmed down a bit but still don't tell him where I live? Arrange contact with the dc through a contact centre or something.

Is it as stupid as it sounds? Is it even legal? Once the money is in my account? Can I spend it as I wish?

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sugar21 · 02/06/2014 17:42

Womens aid helped me to leave and found a place for me to stay. Get out now. Once you're out you can divorce him and the court will probably say the marital home has to be sold and make an order about the proceeds. I was in hospital after EXH beat me up and the police put me in touch with womens aid. Fortunately a lady there knew her sister needed someone at the hotel she owns so I'm now living and working at the hotel and quite happy but won't go near men. Oh my DD died so It was easier for me to leave on my own. but def go to womens aid. I should add that EXH was ok but turned to drink after DD died and blamed me for her death. PIG. Womens aid are brilliant they can help with legal stuff and all sorts, strongly advise you to ring them

wafflyversatile · 02/06/2014 17:48

This is not the sort of man who would let the funds be paid into your account.

BertieBotts · 02/06/2014 17:52

What if the house sale falls through and the timing gets messed up?

I agree it's too risky. Women's aid is your best bet. Refuges aren't as bad as you're probably imagining.

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