Unhappy

[Mumtoprem]

I have been browsing this forum for a month or too not sure if to post or not.

I feel desperately unhappy with my life and in particular my marriage. I have been with my husband about 14 years and we have a daughter aged 6. I work full time and husband works part time and does the school run.

Husband still carries on like he is a batchelor eg stays in bed both days on the weekend until 1pm unless he has plans with his mates. Spends the remaining time with his mates or on the computer. We rarely go out as a family. If we go out for a meal he spends most of the evening tapping on his phone which he knows annoys me.

We have just had family staying and he pretty much sat in the bedroom the whole time. Frankly it was embarassing. He never makes the effort for me it is always about what he wants.

He knows I am unhappy but just tells me to stop being miserable.

I keep thinking about divorce but don't even see that as an option as couldn't afford to even rent a small flat on my wage.

Oh you don't have a husband - you have an adolescent boy there OP.

You have to decide what's your bottom line, spell it out to him and if he doesn't pull his weight act on it.

Go and get some advice from CAB as to what you would be entitled to with regards to help with housing benefit etc. Also, go and get a free 30 minutes with as many local solicitors as are available.

The more information you have as to your rights the easier it is to formulate a plan.

This man, IMO, does not love you, you are just another household appliance to him.

Not sure about your situation with regards to him working part time, I don't know but this might impact on who is the main carer for your DC. I am sure you will get some very wise and relevant advice about that.

How long has your relationship been this way? Is it a fairly recent thing? Do you know for sure he is with his mates?

Also, I would gather as much information about his income etc.

Good luck.

So what does he actually bring to the relationship?