am I insane

[ojojoj1]

ok I have been single for 2 years now . I have been peviously in abusive relationship that drained my heart and soul. been abused as a chikd so basicky according to my therapist have problems recognising abusive actions from others. I met this guy online a few monthes bacj and we chatted on kik quite often we fell out a few monthes ago as he said to me im dead as I dont want to have relationship and focus too much on my kids. I have recently received a messagec from him appologsining for his behaviour and begging me to chat again. I said ok well see what happens and today he started agin his speech about me needing a man and being unheakthy as I dont want relationship. am I being ubnormal thinking nonone has right to speak to me this way and thats lack of respact for my lifestyle choices. he said I have issues with anger and now he knows what I really am, omg am I really being a dick? I havent sworn on him but really felt like.

No you are not insane. Your life your choice.
Stop contact with this guy and block/delete him

thank you for the reply I will as I said before I dont really recognise the abuse and try tomfind blame in me for other peoples actions

He's not very nice (understatement), just ignore him from now on.

Anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable, wants you to change your behaviour and makes you walk on eggshells; should not be part of your life.

Those things are huge red flags to abusive behaviour.

'You focus too much on your kids'? Tell him to fuck the fuck off, then delete and block.

What a sad, inadequate little man he sounds.

You're not insane ojo. What you have, though, is just possibly another potential abuser there - you've only been chatting/back to chatting online for a short while and he's trying to control you and dictate your actions already?

Block him/delete him. No more contact.

He's a tool (who does he think he is, telling you you are abnormal, have anger issues and are too focused on your kids?! Has he even met you IRL?) and you owe him no justifications for your choices about having a partner and your dedication to your children. Block and ignore!

thank you so much I feel better now , I blocked him

Well done.

Your instincts are absolutely right - no one has the right to speak to you this way, and anyone who does has no respect for you and/or your lifestyle choices. Well done for blocking him. His behaviour sounds abusive and I suspect over time you would have seen more sinister things from him.

Well done. What a prat.

Christ Almighty OP, He is gaslighting you so you think you are in the wrong.
You focus too much on your DC's? Sounds like he is jealous of the attention they get. Like PP's have said, he is woefully inadequate.
Well done for blocking him :) Give this creature no more of your attention or time OP.
You give those children of yours all the attention they want, to f* with him.
He knows you are vulnerable and find it hard to recognise abuse, so he is abusing you.
I am on your behalf OP, he is a twunt.