Sex

[littleme543]

My DS is still only in primary school, year six, and he has a serious girlfriend. However much I didn't like that yesterday I checked his emails and they where to his girlfriend talking about when they had already had sex and then when they would have it again. HELP

I can imagine that was a bit of a shock.

I think there are a few things you need to do:

1. If you are co-parenting with a partner/ ex, speak to them immediately about your best course of action. Talk through your plan and make sure your son understands you are working together.
2. Talk to your son. Explain you know what has happened and how you feel and why this was not a good idea. Does he understand what might happen?
3. Explain to him he will be unable to be alone with his girlfriend for the time being. They can spend time together at one of their houses but only under supervision.
4. Contact her family and arrange to meet them and explain what has happened.
5. Work together with her parents to support both children.

Do you think your DS knows what sex actually is? Have you talked to him about sex or has he had sex education at school? Certainly talk to your DS in the first instance and clarify what he meant in the e-mails. Then take it from there.

Holy Cow!

my first thought echoes COGs. Sex could cover a multitude of things from kissing to full intercourse. Other than that follow the advice above promptly.

Yes, check he knows what he is talking about. Then explain the legal situation and that all play will be supervised for the foreseeable future.
Then talk to the Child Protection officer at the school. The girl's family will need to be informed and this is a better way that just giving them a ring! Also, if she's initiating the sexual activity, is this because someone has introduced her to sex? This needs looking into, it might indicate abuse.
In my twenty years in secondary education, I met many, many young people who were sexually active before they reached Year 7. They need protecting from themselves and each other.

Phone Childline 0800 1111 and ask for their advice on how best to speak with him about it.

I would ask him what his definition of sex is. Could just be hugging.

Are you serious? Your 10 year old son has had sex and you are asking mumsnet what to do? Social services need to know.