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Feeling pissed off with family

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jesusofsuburbia · 02/09/2006 15:53

I am feeling so stressed out with family at the moment, I am sick of people trying to tell me what to do and when to do it. For months now a wedding has been booked (my cousin's), I said from the start that I wouldnt be going for a number of reasons, I havn't seen her in over 10 years and even then we didnt see each other much or talk, I know nothing about her now but the most important reason being that it is right before my pay day and I have no money at all, I'm really struggling this month and I have nothing to wear which would be ok at a wedding so it would involve buying something new etc.

Anyway I have been nagged constantly about it, everyone telling to me to go etc and today they really laid the guilt trip on saying that my aunt (who has incurrable cancer) would be devestated if I didnt go so I have just spent the full day stuck in mad traffic jams just to be able to get a top to wear, I have spent money that I havnt got and have had to leave myself short for the rest of the week with £50 to buy food and pay bills but nobody will give a shit about that, as long as I do what I am told.

They say I didnt need to buy anything to wear which is crap because I know fine well that they take great delight in ripping the piss out of peoples clothes, weight, hair etc etc as soon as their backs are turned. Last time it was my other cousin that got the brunt of it when the whole family discussed how fat she was at a recent party and how ridiculous her clothes looked...all behind her back of course.

I am just feeling generally stressed and pissed off at the moment, probably more due to the fact that I am now skint which I find stressful in it's self. Are your families like this? insisting that you do this and that and bollocks to your own problems or is it just mine?

OP posts:
auntymandy · 02/09/2006 15:58

Take the top back and dont go!!
Will your cousin notice if you are there or not?

jesusofsuburbia · 02/09/2006 16:02

No it's not even her that wants me to go, she didnt even write me the invitation! it's my aunt that is so desperate for everyone to go and it's very easy to feel guilty upsetting her when we dont know how long she is going to be with us (cancer). There are others in the family that are not going but nobody gets on at them, just me!

I wouldnt mind but nobody bothers with me at other times, nobody phones me EVER and nobody comes to visit me, My eldest is 7 and family members still ask me what his name is etc...

I just feel so pissed off at the moment, I felt in a crap mood to start with this morning so I could be doing without all this

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Tommy · 02/09/2006 16:02

ah.... families eh?

agree with auntymandy - what is the point of going to a wedding that you don't want to be at?

auntymandy · 02/09/2006 16:05

dont go. you can see your aunt someothe rtime

bubblepop · 02/09/2006 16:38

take the top back and don't go. find an excuse and back out graciously.

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