Help! Need to stop mooning around over this guy!

[JustALittleBitLost]

I've become a bit infatuated with this guy at work. He's single, I'm single. We've become quite friendly, sometimes see each other out of work, text each other, and generally get on very well.

I really like him a lot. But my sense is that nothing's going to happen romantically. So I need to stop (secretly) mooning around after him. There's nothing healthy about dwelling on all the things I like about him, when the chances of us getting together seem to be pretty slim.

How can I distract myself, and put myself off him? I've tried giving myself a stern talking to, but every time I see him I get all dreamy again....

Have sent you a PM.

I spent two years mooning about someone then finally we hooked up and.....he was shite in bed. And not willing to learn.

Tbh, it's quite unusual for a single guy to want to go out repeatedly with a woman they don't at least fancy, so I personally think your chances are good.

*hmmmn years of unrequited adoration and a nagging sense of what if...

or the risk of an hour of mild embarrassment at a knock back.

Seems a pretty obvious choice to me.*

Got to agree with this...if he's always hanging around you at seize the moment.

Do it! I recently asked someone out I'd been mooning over for aaages, and even though he said no I'd still do it again. There is a shitty couple of days to get through but after that the relief that you know what's what and can start focussing on other men life goals is huge. I highly recommend rejection

FunkyboldRibena - scary story. Sorry it didn't work out for you. I suppose that's the sort of thing I'm worried about!

Thank you all for your advice. This has actually really made me think about what I want. And that maybe I'm enjoying the mooning more than I thought I was...