my thread has vanished.

[pollyanna0702]

Hi sorry for not posting, the thread doesn't appear in relationships its vanished! I could only find it by googling mumsnet and my user name.

Anyway, the last few days have been ok. I have a copy of the mortgage statement, the paasports, b certificates and my car insurance and mot. I have spoken to my lovely sister who has offered me 5k to get myself set up. I can pay her back when the house is sold.

I have checked entitled to and should be ok. I think he has picked up on something though. He is being very nice. Its unnerving. And a bit strange.

cog I understand what you mean but I have been a grown woman for many many years and im disgusted I have not realised sooner.

Sorry I could only find my thread by googling a few words of my title and username, it wouldn't let me post on it. If anyone could link I would be grateful.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2090141-will-you-please-answer-these-2-question-would-you-leave-and-why Is this it?

Yes thank you so much where Im only using my phone, I dare not use the computer in case he finds this.

The way I look at it, if someone has duped and manipulated you, there is limited benefit and a lot of damage in too much self-reproach. Understand what happened, understand your response, understand why you might have not wanted to accept a horrible truth, admit you might have been foolish or made a mistake ..... but please blame the person responsible for the bad behaviour, not yourself.