dp thinks I'm having an EA

[spence82]

Hi I've posted about my gf before having trust issues. How she constantly snoops on my phone or fb.

I've had a few texts from colleagues and one of them happens to be a woman. It wasn't flirty in anyway it was asking about a work issue but she put a couple of x's on the end of the message as she does to everyone.

She flew of the handle and accused me of sleeping with the colleague. I tried to explain to her that it was just a work question but she isn't having it.

We've only been together a few months but im thinking i may have to end it.

Oh my...... Yep. Time to end it. Will only get worse.

agree with all the others - end it quick smart! This sounds like the tip of the psycho iceberg, the psychberg if you will. Just make sure you do it in a public place and let your friends know where you are going. And lock up that bunny.
Good luck! Do let us know how it goes won't you?

Quick update. I haven't seen her since I started this thread as she's been visiting her parents for a few days.

She won't be back till tomorrow so I will speak to her then.

We spoke on the phone last night and she kept asking me how the woman I work with is. I kept saying there is nothing happening but she is adamant I'm lying.

I'm still going to end it.

Good choice.

Good luck.

Just read your thread now and I agree that it is time to end it. It's not nice breaking up with someone, but it is the right thing to do.

It's gonna be a shame as shes really nice apart from the lack or trust. Think I will be getting some beers in for after its done.

Hmmm, there's a lot of new threads with men's names as the user name flying about in relationships atm, usually about "controversial" subjects that seem to be trying to get us Mummy's all riled up or caught out in double standards.

Well its your choice to be suspicious Nikki but thanks to everyone else for there advice

Nicki*

There's another thread OP, "Lying but not sure why" or something and it's from the opposite perspective of your story, quite interesting how your GF sounds psycho, but her BF sounds right shifty!! You should drop her a line!

I have seen the thread you mean always but there was definitely nothing hidden from my end.

I had the chat tonight to end it. She was upset but still thought she had done nothing wrong.

Feel a bit shit as expected when a relationship ends but a few cans of San Miguel are helping

Well done you!

I was on the lying thread and told that woman that she had no right to snoop, previous relationship issues or no.

If anyone checked up on me, i'd fucking bin them. No boyfriend or girlfriend has that right.

NO double standard there.

If however a wife/husband or long term partner has suspicions, assuming there's more at stake like kids/property then it's important to know what hand you're being dealt, and it make a massive difference to how things pan out.

spence, you said she was abusive in a shouty way, but you've only been together for a short while. Basically you shouldn't even have seen this side of her yet! Think about it, this is the time when you both are still on best behaviour!

Doesn't bode well for her does it.

Make sure it's clear she's not to contact you again. I have a sense she'll be a bit of a klingon.

It was the right thing to do. The relationship and her checking and accusing would have got worse unless you cut all females from your life.

I had ex boyfriends brother who said he ended up having to look at the floor when he and his gf we shopping or she would accused him of looking at girls.

It was a very unhealthy relationship.

But...

Please get decent beer! YABU!