Some perspective?

[FreeSpirit89]

This evening I've had a blazing row with the other half, which started silly.

And ended in him throwing a kettle, and saucepan in my direction. After I asked him to leave for the night to give me some breathing space, he refused saying if he was leaving he'd take DS's bed.

He has since calmed down and says he acts this way because I make him. I'm currently hiding in my room, listening to the kids play to scared to go out.

This is domestic violence and needs to be treated by you with the seriousness it deserves.

All abusers say that their chosen victim made them act like this; its rubbish. He does not deserve any second chances from you either.

He needs to be gone from your home and your life; there is no coming back from this. I would call the police and report this domestic violence incident asap. He is not above the law, no man is.

Do call Womens Aid too on 0808 2000 247.

Is this the first time its happened Free?

I don't like the throwing stuff at you but I dislike the 'you make me act like this' line even more! This is not your fault.

He needs to be gone. Phone the police to report his domestic abuse, take a picture of any injuries he has caused you & remember that Womens Aid will help if you need to talk to someone. Attila has posted the number.

Do you need to talk about it?

First time, although Everytime we argue he says he bought everything in the flat so if he leaves, he's taking it with him.

He's left know for the night, have called the police. There gonna send someone out to speak to me

That's good, be honest & don't try to cover for him

Is the flat in your name or joint names?

Just mine x

Good job calling the police. Be honest and tell them everything. The first time is rarely the last, unless you get out.