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date with children/child present?...

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heyho1919 · 29/05/2014 08:51

I guy I saw a few times a while ago has been back in touch and wants to meet again. As he has noone to loo after his child this weekend he's asked if i want to go for dinner with him AND his child (9 yrs). He also suggested that I take mine( 7 yrs) with me and pretend he was an old work collegaue. Not sure about this on a number of levels. Any thoughts?

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Thislife · 29/05/2014 10:49

Would have thought you would want a break from relationships after your recent threads. You have only just got rid of the last one!

QuintessentiallyQS · 29/05/2014 10:51

"he also doesn't like me to drink much so suggested added that a date this way would keep me off alcohol !!" Shock How bloody rude and patronizing of him!

akaWisey · 29/05/2014 10:57

I think it's a problem in part because they were seeing each other a while ago and he's suddenly showed up again - but more so because they aren't 'friends', heyho doesn't know him and whilst it's her business if she decides to give it another go she shouldn't have her young child with her (and nor should he).

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heyho1919 · 29/05/2014 11:03

True that I've only just stopped seeing the other one - but only saw him 4 times so hardly a "relationship"!
I think i'd find his "alcohol" comments more and more annoying. i do enjoy my wine and don't want ot be "tutted" at everyime time or reminded not to drink too much!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 29/05/2014 11:04

Absolutely akaWisey... the guy in question sounds pushy and more concerned with getting what he wants than considering the OP or the children. But, in principle, I don't think children should automatically be excluded from someone meeting a male friend and their children any more than they would a female friend and her children.

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heyho1919 · 29/05/2014 15:47

I told him earlier would be be a little strange havg his child there. His response "it's worked before"

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Jan45 · 29/05/2014 17:13

What an offer eh, how can you refuse = easy peasy.

Frogisatwat · 29/05/2014 17:28

A lovely little bit of control being exerted there. Next thing he will be choosing your food for you! Er no.

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heyho1919 · 30/05/2014 00:15

I know, th emore i think about it, i think it's all the more uncomfortable! I haven't replied to his text about it "working before"

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justmuddlingalong · 30/05/2014 00:26

So you haven't seen him for 5 months, only met him a few times and he told you he didn't like you drinking too much? Now after all this time he wants to go on a date, with kids in tow? OP you dumped him remember. He's not all that, you don't even fancy him. I'm sorry but the whole thing is wierd.

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heyho1919 · 30/05/2014 00:30

Just muddling - i agree! I just get lonely and hope that eventually I'll meet someone nice..

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justmuddlingalong · 30/05/2014 00:33

You will meet someone, just don't shortchange yourself. Aim for a good guy not just any guy. While you're wasting time with this numpty, you could be bumping into someone who deserves you. Make choices not compromises.

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heyho1919 · 30/05/2014 00:38

Thanks muddling - I wll try to remain hopeful!

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ThingsThatShine · 30/05/2014 00:46

He sounds a prize Hmm

Just tell him forget it. Sounds like he doesn't have much going for him anyway before you even get into the weirdness that is this date with children. You can do better!

justmuddlingalong · 30/05/2014 00:47

That's good. Text him back and tell him 'No thanks, I'm going out with my pals to get rat arsed'! Good luck for the future, you need to kiss a lot of frogs and all that.

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heyho1919 · 30/05/2014 00:53

Thanks everyone :)

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heyho1919 · 30/05/2014 00:53

Thanks everyone :)

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Frogisatwat · 30/05/2014 06:11

Yep do what just muddling said Wink

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