is this normal

[iambigfatmess]

Started divorce proceedings partly because dh is very financially controlling. He wants to try and reconcile I have said I need access to all money not to spend but just to put things on a more even footing. He has said I can have access to what he has put in my name but not what is in his name or have any knowledge about it

Get a solicitor. He will have to disclose his assets. My shithead is literally shitting himself right now cos he will need to disclose his funds to ow. Several thousand per month. Oh yes! Gather as many docs as you can and photocopy everything.

And you are NOT a bigfatmess either. We've told you about that before.

I have a very good solicitor. I in a sick way am looking forward to seeing the arrogant git wriggle and realise what he has to do

fatmess (pls pls change your name) I am looking forward to the mediation meeting just so I can see him squirm. I will shake like I don't know what. But ..... just to see that shite have to explain himself will totally make what I have gone through for the past 2 years a guilty pleasure.

I can't wait to tackle spousal maintenance and pensions. Am I bitter oh yes

We have indeed nespesso

How about iambigontakingnoshit

sorry, bedtime

Oh man we are in the same boat! I had 2 friends round tonight as I couldn't even open my emails for past 2 weeks. They have sat down with me and worked out the maintenance. I'm not bitter any longer. I just want me and my son to be safe and secure.

to you both.

Stick to your guns, you will be fine

Oh thanks Bewitched. I always look at your responses to people as I do to cog and anyfucker. You 3 always make sense. I would have gone mad but for looking at mn. Only 2 months reading on here but now I see it all for what it is. Good sense from decent people. Rubbish from shit narcissist.

Blimey , thankyou

Hallowed company indeed.

Good luck love.

Good morning and thanks

If necessary you could get a forensic accountant to make sure he's not hiding any assets.

Been there, done that iam

It's a really gratifying feeling, knowing that they can run but they can't hide. Knowing that they can't manipulate the law even though they may believe they can. Having a solicitor who's seen it all before and swats the bullshit aside.

And the eventual document which divides things fairly, the one which tells how it's going to be whether it suits him or not . It may be a bitter victory iam but it's better that than the alternative.

And change that username

How long did it take if you don't mind me asking