ExP and I split last Dec after nearly 6 years (he moved out in Feb to live with his new gf of 7 weeks). He was angry, not nice to my 2 DS so I ended it. We still have a house/finances together which we are linked by until the house is sold. I have had a truly awful few months, lost lots of weight, had to have counselling, my heart was truly broken but I was getting slowly better, started dating again.
He sent me a text at the beginning of May (previously had been silent or nasty via text) saying he'd basically made a mistake. He knew he'd been an idiot, knew he needed help with his anger. He and his gf had split (she'd gone back to her ex). God knows what he saw in her, they have nothing in common. She was a 100% rebound! He was struggling financially etc.
I spoke to a mutual friend of ours and she confirmed that he had a bit of a 'flash bang' moment at their house and realised he has wrecked every relationship he's ever had (inc. with his own DD) because of his anger issues. Our friend and her husband helped him to understand that he needs help.
He came over to see me and I couldn't stop shaking. We talked and cleared many things up. He came up to the house a few times over about 10 days, stayed over a few times. He said he wanted to talk to my boys and apologise, explain his behaviour and how he was seeking help. We discussed taking the house off the market (something stopped me doing that) and he started talking about coming back. He arranged some counselling and went to see a counsellor once (made a further appointment also). His house was put back up for rent. Daily texts. But the sex was different. He was different. But I still loved him, or the idea of him and what we had!
Somehow I knew it was too good to be true! Last week he text me (after I suggested his feelings were changing) and admitted that his feelings had changed towards me, he knew i thought he was a bastard (erm YES) and he was sorry. He thanked me for being there for him, for the good times and all we had done as a family.
For 24 hours I wasn't in a very good place. I just couldn't believe what he'd done. I don't understand why he did what he did. He was the one making plans for the future and whenever I suggested otherwise he asked me if I was having second thoughts.
I deleted his text, didn't reply. I've emailed him once to tell him something about the house/mortgage - it didn't need a reply. Blocked him on Facebook.
I think he thought that maybe he still loved me, but then realised he didn't. I don't think this man can be on his own, he always has to have a replacement woman.
Thankfully I'm ok. Going out, keeping busy as before. Can't believe I was so stupid.