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How much?

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Missfishandchips · 28/05/2014 08:46

Just a quick one...

Met a guy out on Sunday night, and we got on etc and he said he'd like to take me out and took my number.
He texted the next day, and we agreed to go out on Friday.
I've not really heard much since, and I thought i'd contact on Thursday to see if the date is still
on and what the plan is etc.
Is it a good thing not to have too much contact before a first date?

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hellsbellsmelons · 28/05/2014 08:54

I'm not sure.
Usually there's quite a bit of texting going on.

I'd send him a text today asking about Friday so you can plan your weekend.

'Just wondered if we are still on for Friday. Just need to know so I can plan my weekend. Thanks x'

FolkGirl · 28/05/2014 08:54

Yes.

I think you can burn out if you text too much and the imagined relationship has progressed a lot more than the real one.

Besides, it's fun getting excited about seeing someone and all that.

"Not really heard much since" does that mean just the occasional text or nothing at all?

I'd text on Thursday just to confirm what the plans were, but if I hadn't heard back from him by Friday lunchtime, I'd make other plans.

The reasoning behind this is that if he doesn't get back to you, you won't be sitting in alone, but it also shows him that you're not a needy woman who is sitting around waiting for a man to make her life complete. If he does get in touch after that point, it's reasonable to say that you'd made other plans as you'd not heard back but you'd like to rearrange for another day. Then hopefully someone who was interested would be quite so laid back next time Wink

Good luck!

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Missfishandchips · 28/05/2014 09:04

Thank you.

I didn't hear anything at all yesterday, but did have about 9 texts on Monday.

I've sent a casual 'Don't envy you in this rain this morning' text today as he's a Postman, so will await his reply... If it comes! Wink
I already have my friends on standby should Friday fall through.

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FolkGirl · 28/05/2014 09:10

If you met on Sunday, had 9 texts on Monday and then nothing yesterday, he's probably concerned about looking too keen and is holding back a bit.

Don't worry (easier said than done, I know) and hold out and see what happen on Friday. It's Wednesday now, in 48 hours you'll have a better idea...

Glad to hear you have a standby Wink

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