How can I stop it?:)

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Hello, posted a few times, struggling at the moment:( left my emotionally abusive husband a year ago, he was also a bully. I have had to move on with my life in the last year, I have taken courses and have a small job, I am currently doing a home study course and am hoping to get on a course in September that should hopefully lead to a job for me so the children and I can find a home and get on with our lives. When stbx has the children he spends the time quizzing them about me and what I am doing and who I see, who they have been out with etc, my eldest was quite upset earlier because he said he didn't want to tell daddy anything because it's none of his business, bless him. Do I just hope it stops or do I speak to him about it? I have no contact with him other that arranging for him to see children, I don't want any contact with him, I have no interest in what he may be doing. Any advice appreciated, thank you

That should be a :( in the title,sorry

I think maybe an email or something saying that your DS had been upset by the questions and that if Ex needs to know anything you suggest that he contacts you directly to ask you himself.

It sounds like you've done a really good job of moving on and your Ex hasn't - I guess in time he'll lose interest, but in the meantime it's really unfair of him to be quizzing the kids.

Thank you - I was going to try and be brave and actually confront him face to face with it, not argue, just point out that it upset dc, what I do now really is none of his business - his children are cared for and provided for as best I can, that's all that should concern him. Thank you:)