18 months without sex in a relationship. ..help

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Ive been with my partner for 6 years. We haven't had sex for18 months. We get on and all that but the intimacy has died. I don't really want to leave her and wondered if anyone was in the same boat and we could help each other?

Thankyou for your thoughts maisie0. ..I know something has to change, just hate the thought of confrontation

You have to find the strength to do this though. Trust your gut instincts. Ask yourself whether she is the woman for you or not. If she is for you she'd tell you the truth. If she is not and has strong pride then she'd hide or white-lie.

Sometimes you have to go through these kind of challenges to come out the other side. For confidence, I'd encourage you to do something which grounds you a bit. Whether it is a hobby or something. Just to give yourself the relief for a bit.

You are just friends. She obviously has a sex drive if she was messing around with someone else, are you sure she isn't still doing that? Why haven't you discussed this with her? Surely you can broach the subject of sex with someone you have been with for 6 years, and if you aren't comfortable to do that what exactly is keeping you with this person?

O know what you are saying. I know I should face it head on but its difficult, we are interlinked in so many ways and breaking up is so painful for a sensitive person like me

No matter how low your self esteem is, the relationship will eat into it even more. You will only be helping yourself by ending it, going through the grief of the break up, deciding what you really want, then eventually meeting someone who fulfils all of your needs, emotionally intellectually and physically.