Michele, it does sound like you are churned up and in turmoil having to finalise your divorce, whilst having the additional worry and doubt as to whether you can 'hold it all together' emotionally and keep your relationship with your DP on-track. When you're already on your knees emotionally, staying cool calm and collected isn't easy....
A dear friend of mine has been going through exactly the same thing so it is at the forefront of my mind at the moment. The happy news is that the divorce is finalised and he and his partner are reunited - he chose the "be patient, take a big deep breathe and don't panic" route - it felt horrendous as he felt he was letting her go, but it did clear the air and they saw the wood for the trees. The pressure over the extended 2 year divorce took its toll, but it was resolved with time.
As several PPs have said, if I were you, the best way of showing your DP that you "mean business" and are committed, is to back off, not entirely, but just try not to overwhelm him with the emotional bit. Come on here and off-load if it helps - but maybe keep your intense feelings for a future time.
Maybe if you speak with him before you meet up next, why not suggest you both have a "rain-check" on the emotional intensity, meet for a drink have a general catch up and keep things light, positive and chatty - maybe ask about his DD, work etc etc. Let him make a move regarding the next meeting, keep it open for now rather than cornering him into getting together before he feels ready.
Helpys Please let the numbers in your name refer to a saucy practice, not your age Maybe try using the 'preview' before posting such a vile remark ....?