No prob, I really hope you get something sorted and life improves for you soon. I'll copy and paste this from women's aid site in case you haven't read/don't want to go on their page (delete your browsing history, including this website so your partner can't find out)
How do I arrange refuge accommodation?
You can call the Freephone National 24-hour Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247, which is run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge, and which will find a refuge space for you if you want this. Many refuge organisations have public contact numbers, and if you want you can contact these yourself (see the Women's Aid National Network A-Z of refuges, or look in the telephone book for your local Women's Aid organisation or other domestic violence service). You can also contact refuge organisations through the Police, the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 (UK) or 1850 60 90 90 (ROI), social services or the Citizens Advice Bureau.
You should be able to go into a refuge on the day that you call. You can't usually book accommodation in advance, nor will you always be able to find refuge space in the location of your choice.
If you decide you would like the Helpline to arrange refuge space for you, you will be asked for your name (you only have to give your first name if you prefer) and the ages of any children who are with you. You will need to give a telephone number on which you can be called back when accommodation has been found for you. This can be a telephone box, as long as it takes incoming calls, or a mobile phone, or it could be at a friend's house, a health centre or any other safe place where you are able wait for any return calls.
When refuge accommodation has been found for you, a member of staff or a volunteer from the organisation will discuss with you how you can get there. They may arrange to meet you at their office or somewhere else which is easy to find. If they do give you the address and the location of the refuge, it is important that you keep this information to yourself, and that you take care not to leave any of this information behind (thus enabling your location, or the address or telephone number of the refuge, to be traced).
What can I take with me to the refuge?
As a guide, try to take the following with you to the refuge:
•Identification.
•Birth certificates for you and your children.
•School and medical records, including the telephone numbers of the school and your GP or surgery.
•Money, bankbooks, cheque book and credit and debit cards.
•Keys for your house, car, and workplace.
•Driving licence (if you have one) and car registration documents, if applicable.
•Prescribed medication, and vitamin supplements.
•Cards or payment books for Child Benefit and any other welfare benefits you are entitled to.
•Passports (including passports for all your children if you have them), visas and work permits.
•Copies of documents relating to your housing tenure, (for example, mortgage details or lease and rental agreements).
•Current unpaid bills.
•Insurance documents.
•Address book.
•Family photographs, your diary, jewellery, small items of sentimental value.
•Clothing and toiletries for you and your children.
•Your children's favourite small toys.
Not all women will need all of these items, and there may be some items that you would need to take that have not been included in this list, but this is a general guide.
