These pages are so full of angst and heart break and justified anger. Ghaving a destructive relationship seems so common, and having a healthy one illusive and hard to come by. Life has been tough for me and dp the last few years, been trying for a baby, multiple miscarriages, job losses. Not awful, but tough. Somehow we are closer. Been reflecting on how this is. I am thinking now that kindness is so important. I can be unkind, a judgemental cow at times. But Dp is a sensitive soul. A thoughtless act of unkindness to him is much more hurtful than it would ever be to me. As a result I have learned to be a kinder person. This has made me more open and vulnerable than I have ever been, because I know that no matter how batshit mental I can be, I will always be met with unconditional kindness. I am gradually learning how to do this in return.
He has not a penny to his name,shit with money, can't change a plug, a stone or two over healthy weight, starts shit he never finishes and fucking annoyingly chirpy of a morning. Lots of stuff that would have some sections of mumsnet scream dump the bastard. But for me, I think I may finally have gotten it right. What about you ladies? What is it that one thing that let's you know you are onto a winner? What are the green flags?