Dumped by text 5 days after meeting his kids...

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Ok, I'm new here, please be kind, I've stalked for a long while but don't hold it against me.

I'm floored today, BF dumped me by text last night. By f&@king text. He's 45 for gods sake!

He was perfect, obviously too good to be true, introduced me to his kids last Saturday, promised me everything, holiday booked in August, wanted more children etc etc. then last night he's "not ready for a relationship".

For once I am certain this time it's not me. Totally baffled, confused, angry, fed up, gutted.

He's cited being emotionally and physically exhausted, I can relate and understand that, I'm here to support him after all if he'd have let me.

I can understand a 'blip' or cold feet but to be so final when he's just brought the children over after I'd told him how much that meant to me. After all it's just not fair on them.

Sorry for the rant but needed to get it out x

I've just seen a girlfriend go through this a month or so ago, and it's horrible Smiley. She'd been seeing this guy for all but a year and only the day before he finished it, he'd been saying to her how he wanted the relationship to last forever, how much he loved her, how special she was.

She then gets an email at 7.30 next morning finishing it. Out the blue. Not only that, he criticises just about everything about her - her character, how she was in bed, how selfish she was etc. My gf was reeling because he had never given a hint that anything was wrong and what he'd been saying to her was not what he'd been thinking. She had no idea anything was wrong. It's cruel.

I think Smiley there are men out there who are in love with the idea of being in love. The reality is very different and they quickly and brutally finish it. If he was physically and emotionally exhausted, he should have been talking to you and telling you how he felt as opposed to ploughing on with you meeting the kids etc. I think you will feel very angry about this and it's understandable but I think you have to try and take a step back and realise that if this guy can do that to you by text, he really isn't worth knowing.
(And I'm just off to text my friend to check she is OK!)

Thank you roussette I hope your friend is ok.

It bloody awful, why don't people talk anymore? I'd rather know what's up, even if it's a really bad reason, at least then I can deal with it. Such cowards!

You are right, he's weak and not worth knowing. To promise me everything I crave and then rip it away is just cruel. Time to regroup, giving myself tonight to wallow and that's it. His loss after all!

His loss indeed! Hope you feel better soon. Have and regroup yes (although it will probably take a while to put yourself back together but it will happen)

It's the disappointment that's the huge thing here huh OP. Good for you, having a wine or seven and licking your wounds. I'm single and my mantra is "Don't get involved in separated men". This may sound harsh at the moment and I really don't mean it to but it's a very good rule when out there.

Hi tinks yes it is the disappointment. Good advice re separated men, I'm on my guard now! Not harsh at all.