what sort of couselling should we get?

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Do has reluctantly agreed to counselling to try to sort some of our relationship problems out. Trouble is, I don't know which sort is likely to be most effective. I've had cbt in the past which was quite helpful but seemed to focus on changing behaviour as a coping mechanism. What I'd like is someone to actually voice an opinion of the way things are (as a sort of judge,). Does this sort of thing exist?

Thanks.

You won't get a counsellor to judge right vs wrong. All they can do is facilitate discussion and encourage to find your own solutions. That you're asking for such a thing suggests that you have a problem resolving conflict and you're looking for someone to adjudicate. What do you need coping mechanisms for.... also conflict? Do correct me if I'm wrong.

The other thing that is a concern is the word 'reluctantly'. Counselling is a waste of time for the half-hearted and (making a big assumption ) joint counselling is not recommended where there is any kind of controlling, abusive or bullying behaviour evident.