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advice on how to keep exh out of the property

9 replies

ALovelyBunch0fCoconuts · 22/05/2014 15:22

exh and I separated about four weeks ago. he moved out Saturday just gone after punching a hole in my door whilst we argued. I told him to leave and he did.

we live in a council house and it is in joint names. he signed the form to remove himself from the tenancy. we took it into the council. he then went behind my back and called them up and revoked the form.

he is now saying he has every right to move back in and make my life hell. I have logged the agressive behaviour with the police.

the council told me theres nothing I can do to stop him coming back. im not allowed to change locks and he still has the keys.

what can I do?

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nespressofan · 22/05/2014 15:26

Put a bolt on front door so you're safe. Also if you have access to the street via garden (back) door then use that so front door is always bolted. That's what I do. Failing all that, you can 'lose' your keys so forced to have locks changed.

hellsbellsmelons · 22/05/2014 15:32

You might not be able to 'change' the locks - but can you add one?
Like another chubb style lock below the main lock?
And yes to bolts!

ALovelyBunch0fCoconuts · 22/05/2014 15:35

he has a back door and a front door key so I cant leave both bolted when I go out. he knows my working hours. so im scared to come home in case hes just sat here one day. in the beginning we were amicable and we agreed that hed look after the kids after school each day in the house. he doesnt have anywhere else to take them. but now I dont want that to happen.

is there a way I can remove him from the tenancy without him knowing? court order or something?

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Shosha1 · 22/05/2014 15:39

My Ex was violent and I had to get a restraining order against him.

He wasn't allowed near me which in effect excluded him from the house.

mummytime · 22/05/2014 15:51

You could phone 101 to get police advise. Otherwise see if you can get legal advice (CAB or a legal advice centre, or free 1/2 hour from a solicitor). You may need a restraining order.
If you post on legal here they may be able to help you through the process.

Lweji · 22/05/2014 15:56

Call NCDV for an injunction.

Joysmum · 22/05/2014 17:21

I don't know much about council tenancies, does it have an end date or is it a rolling tenancy?

ballsballsballs · 22/05/2014 23:31

Call Shelter's helpline, they'll be able to give you free legal advice.

SolidGoldBrass · 23/05/2014 00:12

You need a non-molestation order to keep him out as he is violent and a danger to you and DC. WOmen's Aid will help you get one.

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