Ex husband causing issues yet again

[KissMyFatArse]

Hi, first time posting so be gentle

My ex husband has a contact order in place to see our son. For the past 18mths etc he hasn't stuck to this apart from weekend access. (Which he frequently changed to accommodate golf days/ nights away with his partner/ friends birthdays etc)

He believes he can allocate his mid week contact slots to friends/family/new partner etc.

I had accommodated his family using some of this time previously but this was then stopped after verbal abuse from both him and them.

He is now threatening to once again take me to court to allow him to allocate his time to other people!!! Is this even possible???

He can threaten anything really, but it doesn't mean it will happen. That said, while your DS is in his care, unless you think there is neglect or mistreatment, he can spend the time with whomever he wishes. I think you need to take this a step back and talk to your own solicitor that handled the original contact order. It should have been strictly adhered to but, after 18 months of ignoring it, clearly your ex thinks that laws don't apply where he is concerned.

So make the appointment with your solicitor, stick to the strict terms of the contact order and back everything you say up with a written e-mail. No more 'accommodating', even if it inconveniences you. Good luck

The accommodating comment is spot on. My partner has issues with me allowing him to change things because I don't want to rock the boat, which is why he probably thinks he can now do this.

I know my son is collected and then dropped off with family on some occasions while he goes to his gfs but I can't do anything about that.

It's the actual demands to have whoever he wants coming to get him and thinking he can dictate that to me when he isn't even here. I won't be releasing my son to anyone but he believes because these hours are his he is free to choose what he wants him to do even when he isn't here!

Thanks for response tho. Will be speaking to sols today x