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What should i do next?

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ballsitup · 21/05/2014 18:57

So...i have been dating guy, we have chatted via text and phone everyday for six weeks, and we finally met a couple of weeks ago and have now had four dates in total.

I really like him and got the impression he liked me too, after our fourth date he text the next day constantly, he did stay over but apart from kissing and fondling nothing else happened. Then nothing....i asked when we should next get together...no reply, 12 hours later after a glass ( or 2) i text saying that he should just let me know if he does or doesn't want to see me....i have messed things up? What should i do?

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akaWisey · 21/05/2014 19:00

Don't text him again. You haven't messed it up. But DON'T text him again!!!!

akaWisey · 21/05/2014 19:03

Sorry what I meant was, don't text him again unless/until he's texted or, better still, called you back. You've let him know you want to see him again which puts the ball in his court.

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ballsitup · 21/05/2014 19:04

Okay i was thinking that may be the case, it just seems odd when we have been in daily contact, i suppose i am a little fustrated by it.
Thank you.

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eddielizzard · 21/05/2014 19:06

ugh i hate people who blow hot and cold. probably game playing.

don't text again. could be he didn't have his phone. but i'd be a bit wary.

akaWisey · 21/05/2014 19:07

It's odd because you don't know him, but try not to feel frustrated even though it's hard not to and just get on with your life Smile

Doinmummy · 21/05/2014 19:10

His wife has probably decided to take him back

Don't text him again , he's telling you who he is.

As my friend and I say "Next!"

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ballsitup · 21/05/2014 19:15

It is my first time dating for five years...completley out of the game and how it works, i used to play games when i was young, but now i am older i dislike it very much.....i think 'Next' could be the way.

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ladyblablah · 21/05/2014 19:18

My experience of dating under these circumstances, and this happens to most who OD, is to move on and try and think no more.

He's still 'candy shopping'. Up to him, but don't be there waiting when he gets rejected by someone and needs an ego boost.

Bindibach · 21/05/2014 19:26

Did he get a happy ending when "fondling"? If he did then maybe for him he got what he wanted.

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ballsitup · 21/05/2014 19:32

No...no happy ending, i won't text him again and if he does get in touch (not holding my breath) i will go from there, but yes i don't want to be a doormat for any man.

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CocoM · 22/05/2014 09:13

If he was interested in perusing you, you would know about it not having to second guess him.

neiljames77 · 22/05/2014 09:53

I agree. Just move on. Shit happens.

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