I have a friend, well, she is the sister of a good friend. She has 1 child (thru IVF). And lives in an area she hates. She is reluctant to try and make new friends, spends 4 days a week at her sisters from 10 til 2.30. Does not work.
She was quite low for a while and became quite clingy with me as she had no other friends and I would visit my friend (the sister) from time to time.
I suggested, after a v tearful few hours, that she visit the doctor as she might be depressed. Which she did and he basically told her to get a grip. I suggested she join some mum and toddler groups (her son still sleeps in the same room as her and dh - she is incredibly protective), learn to swim, even put her house on the market. Which she has done.
She seemed to be getting better, but a month ago she suffered a miscarriage. She is now tearful all the time and if I say that I cant meet her on a particular day (via text) and that I will make the next day, she just ignores me. If i speak to her on the phone she sobs and sobs and makes me feel really guilty.
I really want to help my friend but she just wont get up off her a@se and help herself and I am finding it really frustrating to the point where I am almost avoiding her calls.
Any suggestions?