I've posted here with DH internet cheating issues, twice. After the second time I was about to leave but then decided not to, and he begged me to stay. He can be a pain with negativity and a sense of entitlement wrt work and lack of effort in the relationship, but he's a lovely, kind, and generous man.
When he begged me to stay, I told him that he needed to think about what he wanted really and be true to himself and his needs. It is me that has a problem with sex, and I said if he wanted that we should split instead of him cheating. He insisted I was more important than sex.
I wanted to change but have done nothing about it, basically he cant penetrate me as I'm 'closed for business'. I realise I need some therapy and have looked it up but haven't done anything. I've no sexual feelings generally not even with hunky chaps about and I'm not attracted to him. But I do love him dearly. Sometimes out of the blue I will recall his cheating and be angry and disgusted. But he's been making a lot of effort to make up for this.
In any case, the lack of sex is still a problem and I am wondering if I should really be kind and fair and let him go? How much longer before he cheats again. He will hate me if he doesn't already, I suspect he's feeling guilty now which may mask his true feelings.
We're best pals and very close and co-dependant and no real friends apart from each other. I feel guilty and hate myself either way.