"I don't want you getting fat again"

[whynowblowwind]

I gained weight (4 stone ) after having DS. I lost it again.

Had DD last month. DH was working late tonight and ate at work. I got a bag of chips from village chip shop and had the above said to me.

Am I being over-sensitive?

Tell him to fuck off

Thats a bit harsh when you have just had a baby :-(
Tell him that if he cooks dinner, you wouldnt have to rely on fast food! Is he overweight? You could ask him what his excuse is??

(((Hugs)))

that would reduce me to almost violence. what a prat.

Dick.

Go get yourself another bag of chips, loads of salt n vinegar, a wally and tell your wally to get stuffed.

Er no, you are not. What a twattish thing to say! Is your DH a perfect physical specimen??

Lol @ some of these!

He is getting a slight gut but definitely not fat unfortunately

I would of said 'fine I'll get some exercise' then used him as a punchbag, what an insensitive twat, cos I bet he looks like a ripped male model yeah?!

But he doesn't have a baby as the excuse for his gut. Tell him when he loses weight you will.

Lol sprite

I wouldn't mind but I think I've done well,really. I have gained half a stone so am a bit over my ideal weight but only by about 3lbs.

I'm hungry through breast feeding too.

Maybe he's just concerned for your health although 3lbs isn't a lot, clearly.

Absolute dick

Insensitive but truthful. 4 stone is a lot. I know, the same happened to me with my second. We'll done for losing it though.

She's only 3lb overweight, not four stone
Is he normally so insensitive ?

What LEM said.

Normalish if that were truly the case he would of worded it a hell of a lot better. He's probably just a twat.

OP don't let it get to you, 3lb is nothing! Congratulations on your dd too!

I would probably say something like. "Me either!" I surely wouldn't eat more to spite him.

i think maybe he knows your weaknesses too well?

I don't think it's that.

He definitely prefers me slimmer, so do I in fairness. But in context I'd barely eaten all say - I do keep my calories in check and so him commenting when I know I'm fine is really patronising, and annoying.

This isn't about him worrying for your health though, is it? It's him thinking it's ok to say things like that to you.

Depends on the motive.

I'm not fussed about my husbands weight, I shit scared for his health though

I'm no better, anywhere from size 22 to size 8 depending on how under control I have my binge eating.

Sex wise, it's never been any different no matter what weight we are as we are expressing love and lust for the person, not the body.

Wow.... loving the threats of violence here eh Sprite, imagine reversing the genders huh?

As for the clumsy, insensitive husbands crass comment, he said,''I don't want you getting fat again....'' and op clearly has the same intention.

He did not say, ''you are getting fat.'' Big difference.

He was actually saying, in Bloke speak, not Fem speak, ''you did great losing the weight last time, you are doing great now and like you, I prefer you slim, so here's hoping the chips aren't going to be three times per day, seven days per week....''

He does need to brush up on his method of phrasing things though.
:) And well done for losing the baby weight.

Hi op, did you have another thread about money and feeling like you had little say in family finances? Sorry if I have got this wrong. Its just if that is the case you are building up a picture.

Just be upfront OP and say "I don't think that's a very nice way of expressing your concern" to make it clear that if it is about your health you understand that, BUT that some sensitivity is required.

And then maybe go back to the chippy and get a couple of saveloys and a big gherkin, just to make your point clear

Hi op, I posted on your other thread. Did your husband say you looked great in your dress? I really hope he did and in a genuine way.

Why do you feel you were no good at teaching. My understanding is that the first few years ae really tough. Have you considered tutoring in the evenings?

I think there's more going on in your situation than the two threads suggest, I think linking them together says more.

I left my ex partially due to the fact it dawned on me that one day my parents would no longer be alive and I would be left with him, and to be honest hell would be preferable to that.

I work my dh is a sahd, I do our finances, but I have listed everything down so he is fully aware of incomings and outgoings. We have joint accounts. We used savings to buy him a car, i insisted on a nicer one then he would have bought, mainly due to safety ratings.

Are you really bad with finance? Or did he tell you that? What does bad with finance mean?

Hope you are ok op.