I met my DH 4 years ago, I have a 7 year old son to a previous relationship and we now have a 2 year old DD.
We have never been amazingly close but I am actually starting to hate him, he's stupid, selfish, pig headed, a show-off, an idiot...the list goes on. Whenever we go out he embarrases me, we went out with friends for a meal in a posh resteraunt a few months ago (first time he's met these friends of mine) and he started babbling on about all the 'cool stuff' he used to do in uni and actually started acting stuff out at the table, everyone was looking at us and my friend just kept looking at her hubby and laughing, he's a joke. He is a nightmare with money too, just spends, spends and spends, as soon as he see's something he wants he just buys it, stupid things that he's never going to use such as a new dvd digicam, it was on offer, knocked down from £500 to £450 so he just had to buy it, its never been used. We both work, we have one joint account and each have seperate accounts for our own money (if we didnt me and the kids would never get anything). So as soon as we get paid I pay the bills with the joint account, if I didnt do this immediately the money would go before I had the chance. I save my money or sometimes buy new clothes etc, I never spend it all though, DH spends all of his instantly on crap that he'll never use and then tries to get around me to give him some of mine and if that fails he has been known to raid the joint account in order to buy the latest thing he's seen in the shops. A few weeks ago I found out that he had taken £500 out of the joint account that was being saved for a holiday to florida and spent it on a stupid football trip for himself.
He's pathetic, I find myself ripping the piss out of him because I find him so ridiculous and pathetic, he told me he is physically unable to eat normal portions of food and always feels hungry, in other words he's a greedy bastard that tries to justify eating all the kids sweets if they dare leave them in the cupboard/fridge.
He has stupid, pathetic, juvenile ideas, just the other day he decided that he wanted to go to Sweden so was going to go to college and pay over £1k to learn Swedish ????? When he told me I just burst out laughing, I just cannot take him seriously anymore, he is a joke.
He contacted a long lost friend from school a few days ago, turns out he's living in Africa doing vuluntary work with orphans...yeah you've guessed it, DH wants to do that now too, he told me how it was all going to work and I just said "yeah ok, we'll go tomorow and make a stop off at the north pole and save the polar bears whilst we're at it", we all laughed, everyone expect DH, he doesnt realise how ridiculous he makes himself look.
I see myself turning into the megabitch but he drives me to it, Ive never taken the piss out of anyone before but with him just lately I cant help it, we went in a sports shop at the weekend and he saw a top he liked...most people would buy one, not him...he bought two of the same top. Why the hell does anyone need two of the same bloody top? In the next shop he saw a magazine he liked so I picked up a big pile of them and told him to buy them, he asked what I was on about so I said "you may as well buy a few...".
His new "thing" is that he's going to learn Ninja (because he saw a program about it!), there are no 'ninja' schools where we live but he's insisting that he's going to take it up and even started looking on the net for equiptment!
I just cant help seeing him as some kind of joke, even the kids laugh when he talks, do I just walk away and try and try and save both of our sanities or this farce of a relationship worth saving? Personally I think he would be better in a nursery.