My husband had been treating me quite badly for some time now since I became pregnant with our second child. Name calling, swearing at me, getting drunk and not contributing in the house or with the children. We have a 4 year old DD as well as my DS who's now 9 weeks old.
His behaviour has got a lot worse since the birth of our son. He refuses to help with him much and doesn't help in the house at all.
We have had many arguments. One was about him playing loud dance music on his iPad next to our 3 week DS. He propped the iPad next to his head in his bouncer. I was quite worried about that and did say quite sternly to stop it which resulted in an argument. He then called the HV and said I was mentally ill and insinuated I wasn't able to cope with the children which resulted in a social services assessment.
He continues to tell his family I'm ill and has now told the GP I'm aggressive and need immediate mental help.
I've asked him to move out-he is staying at a friends for a week. But has spent the afternoon out with our DD and when he came back there was more verbal abuse and insistence I'm mentally ill.
I don't know how to stop his behaviour. I am certain now I can't carry on in this relationship. I am frightened of him being back here when the weeks up and the continuing harassment,swearing and general menacing behaviour. His family all believe him.
He has had mental health and addiction issues in the past whereas I haven't but it is me who is under scrutiny.