Struggling to relax

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I have recently met a lovely new man and everything is going well but I am massively struggling to relax enough to orgasm. He is great, I fancy him I'm aroused etc but getting to a peak feels really difficult. I'm pretty sure it's because of work related stress meaning that I just can't get into the zone properly as random unsexy thoughts ping into my mind whilst we are dtd. How can I stop this? Would some sort of relaxation technique help? Now it's in my head that it's a problem and therefore I think it's getting worse. I've had this before when stressed about other stuff but never to this degree. Any suggestions?

I'd suggest you forget all about orgasms and instead focus on having as nice a time as possible for as long as possible. .

I tried to do that last night but it felt a bit unsatisfying. Having said that you're probably right....just need to relax!

Treat orgasm as a 'nice to have' rather than the be all and end all. BTW... if random stuff is popping into your head then your new guy needs to get a lot better at finding exciting ways of holding your full attention rather than letting things drift. I find new partners often take a bit of training. :)

He needs to do you better so you get lost on the moment. Can he talk dirty to you...if you like that sort of thing..

I have just given him a crash course in the sort of dirty talk that works for me, he seems like a fast learner so hopefully will help.