Hurt by DH's response

[carolinecupcake]

A few days ago while standing on a wooden kitchen chair I actually fell through the chair! One of the slats must've been loose and my leg went right through up to the knee! I ended up on the floor with a small cut on my head but fortunately nothing serious. I was alone at the time and it really shocked me! Now both legs are black and blue but it could've been much worse! DH's reaction was well maybe you should lose some weight!No sympathy whatsoever! Yes I could do with losing a couple of stone but I was really hurt! I didn't say anything but was just wondering what other people think.BTW he could do with losing weight too!

Perhaps he was simply making the normal joke that is made when someone breaks something by sitting or standing on it.

To be fair if the same thing had happened to me my DH probably would have wet himself laughing as his first reaction.
However he would have at least asked me if I was ok, didn't he even ask you how you were? That's quite off if not and I don't blame you for being cross with him.
I've no advice really, I would get sarcastic, along the lines of "I'm fine thank you for asking" with added references to him being tubby himself but that's what our relationship is like.
Hope you're ok, I bet you got a hell of a shock!

You are obviously upset that he commented on your weight. He does notice your weight gain even if he doesn't speak out loud about it. He has obviously been slightly tactless here but you should just tell him how much it has hurt you then move on.

I do come from the perspective that if your weight isn't in a similar range when yous met then that might cause problems as in it wasn't what you signed up for and yes it works both ways. puts body armour on

Perhaps I have no sense of humour, but I would be hugely unamused by his reaction. It shows a lack of empathy and emotion, and was quite selfish. Not traits I would like in someone I shared my home with.

Context is everything. Was this a one-off bad taste joke or was he being deliberately offensive? Is the relationship generally a good one where an off-colour remark can be swatted with good humour or a poor one where any sideways comment is just adding another nail in the coffin?

It definitely depends on how it was said, whether he also showed concern and how your relationship is generally.
If said jovially along with sympathy and concern for your injuries etc then although a little bit insensitive, he's just made a bad joke.
If he regularly tries to belittle you, then it's definitely cause for concern.
What is he like generally op?

If my husband said that to me I would be furious. Totally out of order and make sure he knows it.

He is quite tactless generally but he reckons that it's best to say things how they are. The truth is we've both changed weightwise and maybe I should just ignore what he said. Actually we're going through a rough patch and seem to bicker all the time!Sorry to bother you with all this!

If it's a rough patch with a lot of bickering, that kind of remark is not going to help in the slightest. I hate people who claim to be 'saying things how they are' when it's just an excuse to be offensive. Don't ignore it either because that won't help. If you can't find a way to speak to each other kindly, things are only going to get worse. Suggest that's what you tell him.