Title says it all really. I have told my dh that we are over. I won't go into detail because from previous threads on here that I've started over the years, I know I am right to do this and although he is not a bad person, he's not a good husband. He is not going to change, he has had many chances to do so, but hasn't. One of his issues is that he has never really grown up and I have probably mothered him too much. I get nothing out of our relationship and haven't done for years.
On one of my old threads which I can't find, there was some lovely mantra type messages such as 'one life, live it', 'life is too precious to waste with someone who doesn't deserve you' etc. Now these might not work for everybody and some may think them cheesy, but in the midst of all his crying, I find these statements helpful to cling on to! His crying and sobbing is all for him, he does acknowledge that, accepts that he is completely to blame, but god it's hard seeing a grown man you love sob and sob like a baby, for hours on end. I know he's crying for his own loss that he has caused, he is devastated for the children but I also know that I have to stay strong, I deserve so much better and have accepted so little for so long. Yet I feel like the bad guy now!! RL support has been great, but any motivational or helpful statements people would like to share that will keep me going will be gratefully received, especially in the dead of the night when I can wobble and need to stay strong...... Especially because we are skint and the physical separation will take a while. Thank you.