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Can you see the traits of your PIL in your DH?

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LuluJakey1 · 17/05/2014 12:56

I love my PIl- they are great but I could not live with them. They would drive me mad.
Thing is, I can see watered down little traits and habits of theirs in my much loved DH. So I ask myself am I going to end up living with them actually?

For example:
They cut a two slice of bread sandwich into three. He will not cut a sandwich any other way. Cuts triangle off across bottom and then what is left into two almost triangles diagonally. Does not matter if fillings fall out. That is how sandwiches have to be cut.
Prefer dogs to cats. No rational reasons. All dogs are better than all cats. They have two dogs that are terrors- lovely but terrors.We have two well behaved very sweet cats who they pet but persist in their ' All dogs are better than all cats' attitude. DH secretly feels the same although he has grown very attached to the cats but when we are with PIL he reverts to the dogs are better than cats view- and can not look me in the eye when he does it.
They will only read books as proper paper books. There is a whole inverted snobbery thing about it. DH never off his ipad, reads all sorts on it but will not read books on the kindle app. Has to carry a paperback in jacket pocket which he then puts on hall table until there is a pile of them and they fall over. Their hall table is exactly the same. Their pile of books has now migrated to the bottom step. I can see stairs piled with books up either side like hoarders in years to come.

I could go on but I need to go shopping.
I have no inherited odd habits myself of course (Said as collecting shopping bag in which I always keep exactly 6 bags for life as my mum did).

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Primadonnagirl · 17/05/2014 16:50

Oh yes DH is turning into his Mum..
Will order pizza or burger in a restaurant but eat it with a knife and fork cos eating with fingers is common
Same re eating/ smoking in street
Ridiuclous worrying about safety of DCs
Ridiuclous forward planning of DCS lives..when I met him they were little and he already had a " bottom drawer " for them. Already talking about weddings and both girls clearly have just for now boyfriends
He's starting to laugh like his Dad..which he apologies for!

Primadonnagirl · 17/05/2014 16:51

NB I can spell ridiculous!!!!

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 17/05/2014 17:35

Lulu she walks in on you when you're having sex? Shock

I'd be wedging something heavy behind the door pronto. Jesus. It might well be her house and her son but he's a big boy now, you don't saunter on in to your guest's bedroom!

Longdistance · 17/05/2014 18:19

...and dh has become a shit cook like his dm. Always adding weird stuff to food when cooking, and then it tastes shit, as he's ruined it...like his dm does.

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LuluJakey1 · 17/05/2014 18:29

DH admitted he found that one difficult Blush
We agreed the next time we go he will tell her not to bother with morning tea anymore . He said he will lift the corner of the carpet so it catches and stops the door opening. Apparently it was his teenage trick if he was having a wank. Honestly?
She isn't being odd, she is just being nice. they both love DH and SIL and the 4 of them are really close. They talk all the time. They have really welcomed me and treat me like a daughter.
They are very literate, articulate, well- informed people and this is part of DH. I love it most of the time because I am very curious and interested in lots of things, but he drives me bloody mad researching stuff and being a know- all and explaining to me very patiently if I don't agree- as if I must not understand.

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Best1sWest · 17/05/2014 18:40

No, thank God. DH loves both his children, takes an interest in them both,and treats them equally.

ChangelingToday · 17/05/2014 19:32

Mil is always right no matter what - dh has a milder version if this.
When something goes wrong, doesn't work right, it's always someone's fault - dh is exactly the same. Getting worse with age too.
Mil is very sarcastic and tells you exactly what she thinks in a way that makes out she's just kidding but you know she's being serious. - dh has her same sarcastic sense of humour but not her nasty bit, he wouldn't be hurtful the way she is.

ChangelingToday · 17/05/2014 19:34

Oh and they all chew with their mouths open, makes me crazy!

MumofWombat · 17/05/2014 23:44

DH, FIL and my 1 year old DD all make exactly the same 'I know I'm being cheeky but if I grin at you like this you'll find it amusing and I'll get away with what I want to do'. It works on me with DD only...

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LuluJakey1 · 18/05/2014 15:10

Yes DH has a 'winning smile' that he thinks he uses to good effect. SIL has it and so does FIL. They are all charmers- and lovely with it

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