DB has broke up with his DP, you will not believe this.

[Blondiebrownie]

She has been to collect her things (he owns the house and pays for everything so there is nothing to sort out there) and she has taken...

Everything!

Cups, towels, shampoo, conditioner, the rug, washing powder, cleaning products, toilet roll, food and even a half used bar of soap out of the shower!

You name it, she has taken it.

My DB had to go shopping today to get everything but thankfully he is a good sport and thinks that it is funny

She hasn't returned the spare key yet but I have advised him to get the locks changed anyway.

She's either seriously furious or a bit nuts... or both.

Wow, she sounds bitter. On the bright side it means a totally fresh start with new things for him. Definitely needs to change the locks.

Well, as a bystander here, in thinking 50/50 on whether she's nuts, or he was an arsehole.

Meh, maybe petty, but I'll admit I would likely do the same, particularly as I do most of the cleaning and shopping...

Hope she left him some clothes & food??!!??

Honestly; he couldn't have done any more for her. He loves her more than anything but nothing was ever good enough for her and she was making both their lives miserable.

I have sat hours with her talking through their relationship, if I knew that my DB was in the wrong I would have been the first to tell him but he hasn't done anything to warrant this, they have been together for 10 years.

What about the loo brush?

In fact, honestly, maybe cos I'm divorcing an arsehole I'd say I'm 60/40 on her having a good reason!
It's the "he pays for everything" line... It's actually a lot of hassle to go collect up everything. Makes me wonder how often she heard the "I pay for everything line".

But - I'm TOTALLY making up my own backstory here! :)

I'm sure it's very definitely a two-sides-to-every-story situation though!

That's one seriously cross woman :o.

What a nutter. Your DB is clearly much better off without her - a half-bar of soap is about what's she's worth, it would appear.

What's the betting she posted her side of the story on MN and someone told her to go in and take everything

Crossed post blondiebrownie - sorry, not meaning to have a go at your brother. Hope he's OK.

I've just recently heard some stuff said about me, by my ex, and my jaw dropped at how far from the truth it was!
So I admit to a bit of a bias, and taking a barrel load of salt with any one side's breakup report!

That's one pissed off woman - or one who needs help, lots of help - or possibly both.

I hope he gets the locks changed pronto!

Has he checked his clothes for damage or the curtain linings for fishy deposits??

Cabrinha - we're all either mad/jealous/nags/paranoid or all of the above! Par for the course sadly! Still, generally speaking - if they talk like that about you, you're better off with them being an ex. Hope you're holding up ok.

She has suffered mental health problems which he helped her through, every counselling session he was there and she wanted him to take a separate counselling session about how to help her through which he did, if she needed him to take a day off of work to go with her he did and he drove her every time she needed to go.

I also helped her through it as I have suffered with PND and I know how depression can grip you. I also explained this to my DB to make sure that he was understanding.

They don't have any children so there is no need to them to contact each other again though I doubt my DB will stay away as he likes to know that she is okay.

She was abusive and never wanted to spend time with him just him and her, I'm not saying my brother is innocent, he has said things that have definitely hurt her but he has supported her through her recovery, got her anything she wanted, took her away when times were too hard and he doesn't deserve to be treated like this.

She took all the bedding and the clothes that she bought him for birthdays etc. He was left with nothing, she took all the food so he had to order a takeaway when he got home and he had to go shopping for everything.

I wish her well but I feel desperately sorry for my DB as he wanted to get married and start a family and he tried everything to save their relationship.

Brocante - thank you :) It was so far from the truth as to be funny rather than hurtful!

Blondie sounds like everyone has had a rough rude there then. She sounds like she's in a bad place over the break up, rather than simply being a bitch - not that you accused her of that. But perhaps whoever upthread suggested that half a bar of soap was what she is "worth" might like to think again.

Maybe she is in a really tough financial position and can't afford to set herself up alone. Maybe his birthday presents will reappear on eBay.

Why was your DB was paying for everything? What did she do with her wage?

I'm surprised that she isn't entitled to anything after 10 years.

My DB was paying for everything because he wanted to for this reason because he didn't want to lose what he had worked for.

She finished university a couple of years ago. She done whatever she liked with her wage, she bought an expensive car not long ago.

They have always done things separately, this was an agreement made by them both.

"My DB was paying for everything because he wanted to for this reason because he didn't want to lose what he had worked for. "

Sounds like he suspected she would behave like this from the word go. Which makes me wonder why he would stay for 10 years with someone he didnt trust to treat him fairly.

He stayed with her because he did love her but also if they did separate he was worried that she would sink back into her depression which would make him feel guilty.