Was very close to her when growing up and into adulthood. She split from my DF years ago but we remained close. She never had children of her own, but always wanted them and has never come to terms with it. I was 'the daughter she never had'.
However this all changed when I started my own family. When I told her I was pregnant the first thing she said was 'I don't like being around pregnant women'. I have been as understanding as I can as I get how heartbreaking it must be for her. I have seen her once since DS was born as I thought it might make things easier for her if we broke the ice and she met him. But the only contact now is cards/presents at birthdays and Christmas (for DS as well as me) but DSM posts them even though we live in the same town!
Initially I tried to suggest meeting up several times but she always said she wasn't ready. I don't think she'll ever be ready. It's been two years. I've sort of given up now as my priority is now my DS. But I think it's such a shame that DSM is denying herself the chance to be close to this lovely little boy as he grows up. Also wondering what the future will bring when I eventually have to explain to DS who this lady is who sends him cards and presents (if it continues), and why she doesn't want to see him!
Just wondering if any of you think this situation will ever improve? I fear not.