The letter I can't write...can I?!

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We had almost 2 years in a LDR and it vanished overnight, he took the huff at something I wrote online (no, we aren't 17!)

In our last conversation he said "I'll still talk to you."

Except he hasn't, that was just another of the string of promises he made and forgot.

I want to write to him and tell him that; and tell him that I wish I hadn't met him; hadn't wasted so much money travelling; had realised so much earlier that I wanted a life companion but he just wanted someone to fuck.

But it would be stupid, wouldn't it :(

Write it but don't post it.

Write the letter, put all of that in and more... and then fold it up and put it somewhere safe, far away from stamps or the post office.

You could post him a parcel of something thin (enough for the letterbox) and no postage on it... he might not realise it's from you but you'll know. Just make sure you don't go the post office yourself to pick up any 'packages'.

It hurts OP, it won't always hurt. You've dodged someone not worthy of you. That is a very good thing.

He'll never give you the response you want and it will leave you feeling even more frustrated.

It's definitely a good idea to write it all down, calling him all the names under the sun and listing everything that annoys you about him, but whatever you do, don't send it. Just thank your lucky stars that you found out what an idiot he is before you got another two years down the line and start thinking about what you can do with all the extra time and money you'll have now you don't have to spend it travelling to see him.

Thankyou, wise ladies.

For clarification, OP, I meant something heavy and unrelated to you... so that he has to pay the postage. But that is really childish and I'm sure it's beneath you.

Put forth a rallying call to your girlfriends and go out to drink and sing and blot out this idiot. This is what girlfriends are for...

Been in a similar position myself but only lasted a year. Now it's over I realise how little he put in vs me. A letter is definitely a good idea. Instead of sending set fire to it and praise yourself. It may feel like two years wasted but there's no doubt you learnt lessons which means you'll be better off moving forward.

I am in a much better place now. Maybe that's part of the issue - I came to realise I deserved someone willing to make an effort.

You really are. For me I accepted the lack of effort because I was infatuated with this man. He was the first person id ever connected with where the chemistry was through the roof. I felt that it was always me arranging when we'd meet. He'd always be late and made me feel a bit like I was being squeezed in.

I think I also got suckered in to the whole romance story of it all.