UPDATE: DP who can't cook an egg

[SerialCatKisser]

Some of you may remember I posted earlier this year. Sorry I'm not sure how to link a thread, but the general gist was that my dp was a bit of a manchild, and the thread started out about him not cooking for himself whilst I was ill at my parent's. I had also previously posted under a different name about our problems in the bedroom, namely my dislike of sex because it hurts (vaginismus).

Well, I think I've done it. We have split up.

I have been imagining writing this thread, ready to say how free and happy and relieved I feel. But I really don't. I kind of regret it. I know in the long run this is for the best, but right now all I want is him to come in here and give me a big cuddle.

But would he actually give you the big cuddle, or would the manchild in him be huffy?

It will get easier as time goes on. Be kind to yourself.

I think most people feel upset at the end of a relationship, however much it was on the cards. Of course you'll have regrets. Few people are punching the air straight away feeling happy and relieved ... not even if there was horrible abuse sometimes. When you say you've split up do you mean someone has moved out or are you in that No Mans Land of trying to live apart but under the same roof?

Well it only happened today. I've not told family/friends yet, but felt the need to write on here so the breakup feels more 'official'. He seemed to think everything was going great between us, but in my mind there was so much wrong. Especially after reading so many relationship threads on here, it made me realise that I shouldn't have to put up with a lot of the things he does.

Basically we have been given notice on the house we are renting. We have until the end of June. I'll move back to my parent's, probably gradually moving my stuff (they live quite a drive away). He has started looking for a house share. I'm hoping we are not both here the whole time, I can imagine it will be very awkward. I can't move too early because I need to give notice at work.

Best you tell family and friends as soon as possible. Telling MN is a good springboard but you'll need RL people to help you stay strong and not cave if you're wobbling. Glad you're not putting up with things any more. Good luck

Oh christ, of course you feel crap, you only did this today.

Now is the time to hang on to your reasons for wanting to end it and to know that until he vacates your life, it's cluttered by him and you wouldn't be happy.

It will get better love!