First time sex with new man coming up

[BateKush]

OK, this is a bit embarrassing...
I've been on about eight dates with a guy who I really like and fancy, we haven't done the deed yet although things have got quite hot and heavy!

I really want to, I like sex a lot but my marriage that ended last year was quite hard work in the bedroom department and I went from someone who was very confident and sexual to a bit of a nervous wreck. My ex husband developed a porn addiction and became quite critical of my performance.

So...although this is something I want, I'm also a little nervous. What can I do do increase my confidence again? I'm seeing new man on Wednesday and I'll probably end up staying at his.

The actual act itself I have no problems with it's the build up. I'm pretty confident about my BJ skills but I don't know if that's a little bit too forward for the first time? But when it comes to using my hands, I really have no idea what to do IYSWIM.

Should I talk about it? Just go for it?

Any suggestions?

If someone finds you very desirable it really doesn't matter what your techniques are in the bedroom department the first time you have sex. Whatever you think he might like isn't necessarily what or the way he will like it.

You could be over-thinking all of this. If you're a bit nervous, just tell him that.

I definitely am guilty of overthinking things. I'm actually amazed it's got this far and I haven't ruined it with my overthinking. He seems really keen, he calls all the time and I like him a lot. I just worry that admitting I'm nervous might make him nervous.

I suppose it's not something you can plan anyway! I just want it to be good though!

You don't have to have sex the first time you stay over. Just remember that. If it happens, it happens.

I am in a very similar situation yourself up until last weekend, 8 dates and going back to hers after a lovely meal for coffee.....I was worried after being in a long marriage but it went really well it felt right and just happened quite naturally..don't worry about it let nature take it's course and enjoy...x