Bad relationship,ashleymadison,strip clubs searches

[AmeliaAmelia]

Long story cut short, not the best relationship, I'm really not into my DP, he hurt me too much in the past, we didnt have sex for ages and now apart from porn, I found strip clubs searches, and that in his google history....
www.ashleymadison.com/app/m/login.p

A bit sick in the stomach... But then again... We dont have sex... Feel like crap :(

Why waste your time on someone who hurts and insults you? The sex (or lack of) is a complete red herring. Sounds like you need to end the relationship in order to stop feeling crap.

Not the best relationship. Not into your DP. He hurt you too much in the past.

In which case it's not altogether surprising that you don't want to be intimate with him. Even if he stopped his porno habit, the strip-club searches or being on a "marrieds dating site" this afternoon that wouldn't suddenly magic your libido from nowhere.

This relationship is not going to get better. End it.

His only excuse could be that I am not super nice to him either, just normal and I really cant make myself to sleep with him for many many months.....

Those porn, strip clubs searches r really disrespectful and ashley madison.... I dont know if he has got account there but he did look for it :/

Thank u for replies

What's keeping you in this relationship? You clearly don't like him and he doesn't seem to be worth liking... .

We function nice as a family.... We have a child together.... Scared to leave... :/

I would be more scared of getting an STD from this sexually incontinent twat

How can you function nice as a family if he's hurt you in the past and is now making you feel sick to the stomach with porn use?

I dont know..... We can be happy as a family....
Very Occasional porn use wouldnt kill me, especially that we dont have sex and I'm not sure what to do about us... But strip clubs? Awful. He knows thats cheating for me.... And ashley madison.... Maybe he hasnt got an account there but he was looking.... :/ i dont google stuff like that

Do you think that, by not having sex with him very often because he has hurt you, this entitles him to use porn? Only, if you give him that kind of ready-made excuse, in his mind there will be very little difference between porn, strip clubs, hookers or other women.

When you say he hurt you in the past would you be prepared to say what form that hurt took?

Ergh... But if he only googled things and never did anything about it? He was very emotionally rough with me. Very not supportive and nasty after I gave birth... Etc
But he has changed, good family man so to speak....
I'm going mental in my head....

How is he a good family man if he treats you with such disrespect?

Good family men do not use porn, strip clubs and browse on illicit married dating sites.

How long have you been together and how long is it since you had your baby?

8 years together, 4 year old dc.
I can agree that we r not the best match so to speak....
He is on an edge of cheating on me, is he?

Yes, I am afraid I think he is. If he hasn't already.

Sorry if i am wrong, but is English your first language? Do you have good friends and family around you if not?

Apart from that, you sound a little trapped and despairing about this git. Which is what he is.

Get rid of him and if he wants to maintain contact with your chiod make sure it's supervised only; so take screen shots or keep proof of the seedy sex sites he is cruising and stick to your guns.

There's no way I would want a child of mine having unsupervised access with a porn obsessed 'father.'

What are your living circumstances.

Thank u once again for your replies...
My bad typing is due to ipad :) but I'm Spanish, have some family and friends, but dont feel like dropping a bomb like that on a friend and move in with them :/ We live in a house that is own just by DP.

I also dont know how dc will cope if we split, money etc
Also I dont think everybody will be very understanding if i Leave dp after such a long time and due to "just" strip club searches.... :(((

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, they don't have to live with it

Phones and pc without passports. Checked everything.
Nothing. And he hasn't got an account with ashleymadison.
I dont know what to do... Dont feel like fighting for that relationship....