DH and I are both 45. My old school had a reunion a few years back and partners were invited, some opted to go without partners, some took partners along.
Now my husband’s school (old primary school) is organizing a reunion too. Well it’s not actually the school doing the organizing, just two former classmates. They have managed to contact 28 of the 31 people from their former class, and 25 of their former class, including hubby, agreed to attend.
We just got the letter confirming the details, and it states quite categorically that partners are NOT invited.
There was emails going back and forth for a few months discussing which location would suit everyone, which dates would suit everyone, what sort of “event” they should plan, but there was no discussion over should partners be invited or not. It was just made clear at this late stage that they weren’t invited.
To be honest, I think if this was made clear upfront in the beginning, that hubby would never have put his name forward. Both of us were a bit taken aback that partners weren’t allowed, I think we both initially felt it was just “wrong”. But - well, I am wondering now if we’re odd feeling this way, and what the majority consensus is on something like this?
Opinions from all sides welcome. Is this strange to specifically exclude partners? Or is it normal. Or have healthy boundaries in relationships just became too big a deal for me after reading about so many things on MN where relationships go tits up because of bad boundaries? hehe
I think I have given all the background information above. It is concerning a primary school reunion, so they were all the same class from 5 years of age till 12 years of age, and are all now 45, so haven’t seen each other in around 33 years.
Boundaries aren’t an issue in our relationship, and it isn’t that I don’t trust hubby, it is just purely the fact that we both feel quite miffed that many of the group will have been married (partnered) for well over 20 years and their partners are being excluded. Space at the venue also isn’t an issue, it could as easily accommodate 50 people as it could 25.
Opinions PLEASE 
and thanks!