Practical advice about getting divorced?

[AnyAdviceForMe]

Just that, really.

I don't know yet whether I'm going to, but I'm increasingly unhappy with DH. In practical terms, how do you go about getting a divorce? Not just the legal side, but how did you tell family/friends, how did you work out how to divide things up or when to move out, that sort of thing? What do you wish you'd known?

No children and we rent; shared finances.

It makes me feel really sad writing this.

I am sorry

Have a look here

Thanks!

I know I could have googled, I'm being a bit of a wuss.

Nothing wussy about that. Good luck and take care x

Thanks x.

If you need to talk it out a bit more, you cam to the right place.

*came

I appreciate that.

At the moment I'm trying to picture what I'd need to do, how I'd tell people and so on. I've only lived on my own in studenty flatshares when I had far less baggage (real and emotional).

Then practical stuff is a good place to start

Much more straightforward when no dc's are involved

best you end it before that complication comes along

I was about to post the same thing. I've just looked at that link. It's going to be really hard to get hold of paperwork as DH scans it at work, then keeps the digital copy and shreds the paper one. I can get mortgage statements but don't think I can get a payslip of his. I only know the ballpark figure of what he earns.
I really feel like it's in everybody's best interest for DH and I to separate, but I'm so scared of the unknown and petrified about managing financially (3 children and I only work 2 days a week). I wish I had a crystal ball which would show me that we'd be ok :(
AnyAdviceForMe - I hope your situation works out well for you.

Sorry to hear that, nonie.

Reading the links, I am not clear how the finances work without children. I have a friend who got divorced early on, and it seemed very straightforward. I had been sort of hoping we could fill in forms and just do it without spending too long with lawyers.

No idea if this was the right thing to do but that's what I did.....planned it out first. Literally.....I knew I was going to leave so I put together a plan.
Where- Most important, are you going to move out of the flat or do you expect him to go? If you are leaving, where to? Even if you are staying, you will need somewhere to go while he gets used to idea and gets organised to leave so the day you decide to do the deed pack bags with all you need for a week or two and find somewhere else to be. Once you know that ......
When - I found a date that had no significance (not near birthday, Xmas, anniversary etc), was a Friday so no work for the following two days for both of us, met in neutral place that wasn't be busy and sat away from others so we couldn't be overheard.
What - I sort of practised what to say, kept it brief, tried not to be too emotive or laying all the blame on him (even though I think his attitude was the reason!) just explained how unhappy I was and why and then said I wanted to spilt. Explained that I was going to stay elsewhere and said we'd talk later in the week.
Who - I only told parents (I went to stay with them), 2 close friends beforehand and one or two afterwards. But after a few weeks, word sort of gets out somehow when you start referring to your life and you're clearly not living with him or in different place.
After a couple of weeks, I started the practical stuff - most solicitors do first consultation and advice for free.

Good luck

Oh I forgot important bit.....I moved all my 'precious' stuff out first. paperwork - bank statements, birth certificate etc. Sentimental stuff etc. it didn't turn out to be necessary but just incase!
Dividing stuff - i didn't really argue to be honest. Just left most of it - only stuff at the end of the day.